Not much in the realm of financial planning can be guaranteed. Even the best projections and technical analyses are filled with disclaimers noting, among other things, that “Past performance is no indicator of future results.” You can lose money. The company you’re counting on could go out of business. But of this you can be sure: Three sure-fire guarantees in financial planning are SURPRISES, CHANGE and FAILURE.
Reassured? I was afraid not.
But fear not, these three guarantees do come with counter-agents that we can systematize in our financial planning to minimize any negative impact:
Surprises require MARGIN. Change requires FLEXIBILITY. And failure requires GRACE.
Margin is a lost art and missing in nearly all phases of life in our all-too-hurried, uber-productive, stressed-out lives. We don’t leave enough empty space on our calendars, so if we get stuck in traffic or stop to help a stranded motorist, we’re likely to be late for something else. We can’t do anything spontaneous because every minute is already filled. And because all of our time is spoken for, we also don’t have much in the way of blank canvas in our, and all too often our hearts. And this is especially true of our finances—because every dollar is already spent or pledged, often even small emergencies or organic opportunities can’t be absorbed or funded. There’s no margin for error.
Our lack of margin feeds our inflexibility. We often don’t even consider the possibility of change because we don’t have the time. Change, therefore, is inevitably also a surprise, compounding the discomfort. But we often struggle to accommodate even predictable change. Can your finances adapt to another child—even if the pregnancy was planned—or the reduction of income in an industry-wide change that was anticipated? That which doesn’t bend, breaks.
For most of us, so much of our life is spent protecting ourselves from failure that it can be devastating when it arrives. And it will. Failure is simply a natural byproduct of our human imperfection. And if you’re unable to view it as the most successful people often do—as an opportunity for invaluable education and personal growth—please consider diminishing failure’s grip, if only for pragmatic purposes. Remember the major-leaguer who qualifies for the all-star team when he only succeeds a third of the time (a .333 average in Major League Baseball isn’t bad). That’s where grace comes in. Grace isn’t for the guiltless; that’s called vindication or acquittal. Grace is being forgiven—or forgiving ourselves—when we’ve screwed up, slouched, squandered or slandered. You don’t have to deserve it to receive it.
So what on Earth could this possibly have to do with Roth IRAs?
I love the tax-free growth and retirement distributions available with Roth IRAs. I love that you’re not forced to take Required Minimum Distributions after age 70 ½, and I think there’s no better gift you could give your heirs than a Roth. But my very favorite element of the Roth IRA is its LIQUIDITY, and liquidity is the key to navigating the three guarantees of financial planning.
In case you’re not following me, Roth IRAs are unlike any other retirement investment bucket, for lack of a better term, as you’re allowed to back money out of the account for any reason at any time at any age and without any tax consequences or penalties. There’s only one caveat: you can only take back your principal—what you contributed to the account—unconditionally. Your growth is subject to all those typical conditions (taxes and penalties) you’re accustomed to in the realm of retirement accounts. But if you put $10,000 into a Roth and it grows to $12,000, you can take back your $10,000 whenever you please and for whatever reason.
I’m not encouraging you to take the money out, forfeiting a lifetime (and maybe multiple lifetimes if you pass it to heirs) of tax-free growth and distributions. But hey, “stuff” happens. LIFE HAPPENS.
So allow a Roth IRA to become part of your strategy. Use it as an extension (not the primary source) of your MARGIN, the foundation of which should be pure cash reserves in a bank savings account. Allow it to facilitate your FLEXIBILITY to change, if and when it’s necessary. And if you have to dip into it, give yourself GRACE. Learn from the experience so that you’re better prepared for the next surprise and the inevitable change to come.


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Eleven years ago, my wife and I sat across the table from an experienced married couple squirming in their seats uncomfortably as though they feared we were about to deliver some terrible news. But the source of their discomfort was the bomb they were about to drop on us.
7) It provides an opportunity for reconciliation. The prevalence of small errors in our budgeting, however, provides fertile ground for a destructive tendency: that we’d develop a scorecard, real or implied, and shame the more regular offender (because there normally is one in most households). So for us it’s very important that a humility ground-rule is established: Any time an offending spouse submits in humility to an irreversible mistake, forgiveness and reconciliation is the only way forward.
2) It preserves a healthy level of independence. The income production in most households is almost never perfectly equitable. Andrea sacrificed a successful career in the financial industry when she chose to stay home with our young children. This has been an incredible blessing in our family, but it’s also a breeding ground for insecurity and manipulation as I might have a tendency to overestimate my contribution to the family’s finances and underestimate Andrea’s. It is imperative, then, that part of our budget is the preservation of a certain amount of financial independence for each spouse. To offset this income inequity, we’ve established “His and Hers” accounts with unilateral privileges. Many shun budgeting as too restrictive, but properly implemented, it actually gives us room to breathe financially, and we all need room to breathe.
Well, it wouldn’t be the New Year if we weren’t reminded that one of the top resolutions that will be made and inevitably abandoned is financial in nature. “Improve financial condition” is once again the number two resolution for 2012 in the
But what really takes budgeting from routine to revelation isn’t merely mastering the mundane, but planning for the unexpected…with margin. With the exception of bills that are identical every period, each variable budgeting category should have a built in buffer designed to weather slight variance. Then you should also have a separate miscellaneous buffer category for emergencies, auto repairs and other occasions that fall outside the bounds of your expectations.
A couple days ago, I tweeted


